‘Django Unchained’ + The High Cost Of Being Thirsty

I finally had the opportunity to see Django Unchained last night and I must say that despite the goriness of the realities of slavery that were depicted in the film, it was quite entertaining.

Of course, me being the sap that I am, I was most intrigued by the love of Django for his wife Brumhilda and his unrelenting determination to be reunited with her. He stopped at nothing to pursue her, knowing very well that his pursuit could potentially cost him his life. Although this was a story based on fictional characters, I couldn’t help but think to myself “This is how it should be.” No, I am not suggesting that the man who pursues you should be a gun-toting bounty hunter, but I am suggesting that he should be persistent in his pursuit of you.

Last month I penned an article for Madame Noire entitled, Take A Lesson From Kenya: The Issue With Settling For A Man Who Only Likes You Enough where I discussed the tendency that many women have to settle for being with the man who likes them a little bit or is simply tolerating them as opposed to holding out for the man who will sincerely love her as the Bible instructs husbands to love their wives, which is how Christ loved the church.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wivesas their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

A man who “kind of” likes you or is simply tolerating you is incapable of following these instructions, which is why I believe any woman of God would be doing herself an injustice by settling for this type of relationship.

During my ride home from the theatre, I couldn’t help but ponder why I was so hung up on this aspect of the film, considering the fact that there was so much more going on within the plot. Without hesitation, The Lord whispered “true love waits”. Of course, this phrase is commonly associated with abstaining from sex until marriage, but on this particular night, God revealed to me that it was much deeper than abstaining from sex.

True love waits means holding out for God’s best.

True love waits means waiting for the person God has for you as opposed to clinging to some random person to avoid loneliness.

True love waits means waiting for the one who will celebrate you as opposed to settling for the guy who is merely tolerating you.

True love waits mean holding out for the guy who proves that he can follow these Biblical instructions by going beyond the status quo to pursue you.

The Bible says “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and receives favor from the Lord”. If the wife is the good thing, should she not be pursued with intent and intensity? Should she not be cherished and valued?

By settling for anything less, we would not only be living beneath our privilege, but also putting a damper on God’s distinct design for courtship and marriage because we’d be settling for mediocrity while God waits in the background seeking to offer His best.

Do you feel Christian women have a tendency to settle when it comes to men and relationships?

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4 Responses to “‘Django Unchained’ + The High Cost Of Being Thirsty”
  1. Hidden Gems says:

    Reblogged this on Purity Kinkz & Bowz and commented:
    A Whole New Look At Django Pretty With Purpose Style

  2. Mr. Mosley says:

    Unfortunately, there are a lot of women, regardless of faith, that are settling in today’s age. The term “patiently waiting” comes to mind and is now a lost art form. The problem is that our society places so much value on being in a relationship that being single has become equivalent with being in poor. In the church, Christian women have to constantly here the question from mothers of the church, or clergy, “When you gon’ get married?” When they are around their family, same thing, “You know I want grand babies right?” While these questions can be jovial and innocent in nature, they hit at the core of a newly developed insecurity and makes women question their true worth. And so, many times they go out and find a man…any man, to resolve this tension and quiet all the noise. They compromise their beliefs and standards with the hope of finding that ever-evasive four letter word…love. And love sought out in a man never appeases the yearning for it that initiates the quest. Only God can quench that thirst and until a woman has “settled” on God as number 1 in her life, she’ll continue to “settle” with men and relationships that leave her wanting for more.

  3. Mr. Mosley says:

    Reblogged this on More Than Religion and commented:
    Interesting question posed here in this blog…Are Christian women settling more today than before?

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